Creating Lists in Facebook

There’s a great feature in Facebook that allows you to target specific people depending on the type of information you want to share with them. Say you have a few hundred people who you are friends with on Facebook. You have your immediate friends circle, your family and friends, maybe a work circle or specific interest circle.

Say you want to share information with your work circle, using Facebook, about an upcoming project without having that information go to your whole list of FB friends. Building a list for this specific group would be used here.

If list building is something that would be helpful to you here are the steps to begin building.

To create a new list:
  1. Scroll down to Friends on the left side of your News Feed. Hover over Friends and click More (to the right).
  2. Click + Create List.
  3. Enter a name for your list. At this point you can start adding names into the box or you can hit Create and it will take you into the next screen where you can  click on the “Add Friends to List” box and you can populate your friends into this list from there. In the column directly to the right you can see how many people you’ve added to the list and click on the drop down to check the names.   (You can add or remove friends from your lists at any time.)

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Rummaging for Fun and Profit

Saturday mornings usually consist of rummaging in and around the neighborhood I live in.  Yard Sale – Rummage Sale – Tag Sale – Garage Sale –  they are all the same thing. What makes my neighborhood so much fun is that most of the homes are 50-70 years old and many of the people in them have lived in them for 30-50 years.  You can imagine the fun things that people sell!

I started rummaging over 20 years ago out of necessity. Since then it has become almost an obsession. The thrill of the hunt and meeting new people makes it so much fun. The fact that I can save money and make money doing something I totally enjoy makes it even more fun. The goal is to buy things that I need for myself, my family or my home, and also to buy things to resell and bring in an additional income

We didn’t have a lot of money to buy new clothes and furniture and household things brand new when the kids were little. And being the rather frugal person that I am, I haven’t seen the necessity to purchase anything brand new, with the exception of personal garments, car seats for infants, shoes and a couple other things that I wouldn’t like used. I will only buy furniture used if its in perfect condition, unless I plan to refinish it.

I’ve heard the comment before that its icky to buy someone else’s used clothing. My thought on that is if I purchase something new and I wear it and wash it once – its used. If someone else has worn it and I take it home and wash it, there is no difference. And with that, I have been able to buy better quality clothing and have a more extensive wardrobe. I’m not into brand names, but if you are, rummaging in the right neighborhoods can be the way to go if you have a taste for better clothes but are on a low budget.

A lot of people get rid of their clothes in rummage sales. This is where I come across a lot of really nice, name brand, sometimes still with the tags on, clothes.  I often hear that someone is getting rid of their clothes because they have gained weight. I like to think of that as their gain is my gain.

The bottom line is that whether you call it Rummage, Tag, Yard or Garage Sale – you can benefit by either buying useful things for everyday use or buy to resell to make some extra money. Either way is a win – win for you.

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My Challenge at 55

At 55 years old I feel very out of touch with much of the technology at my fingertips. But I’ve challenged myself to break out of my comfort zone and do the uncomfortable in order to achieve greater things.

I’m ready to try new things and learn new things.  So, I am challenging myself to learn how to navigate social media and online marketing. I recently found an amazing tool to help me generate leads for my business with a program called Online Sales Pro (OSP).  This is the first step in my journey.

For $37 I signed up and I’m on my way to learning this system. My mentor, Narshaee, is a great teacher and very patient to teach me. She has hit the top of the leader board with Online Sales Pro within 6 weeks of using this system. Her income has generated an impressive amount of money in a short amount of time.

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Reviving SoulTalkGirl

I can’t tell you how excited I am to bring SoulTalkGirl to life again! I started this blog about five years ago and had great intentions but life, excuses, and a lot of fear got in the way of my dream to share hope, encouragement, joy and laughter with those who need it.

But today I was inspired by a call from one of my beautiful mentors, Narshaee, who encouraged me to get over my fear and press ahead to do what I love.  This quote from another mentor, Gary Vaynerchuk states it perfectly: “Pursue the purist form of who you are and build your life around that”. That’s all the encouragement I needed to get my blog going again.

As I break free from my fears of starting over and sharing life with you, I hope it encourages you as well.

I also look forward to sharing with you how a business tool called Online Sales Pro (OSP) that I am using to grow my home based business can help you generate income as well.

Welcome back to SoulTalkGirl ~ lets journey this life together.



Blessed by the Homeless

I’ve recently been blessed with the opportunity to talk with two homeless people.  It seems a bit odd to put those two words: blessed and homeless, in the same sentence.   My experiences have left me with an array of mixed feelings, but I feel privileged to have met these gentlemen, in spite of their circumstances.

It was in the parking lot of a grocery store that I met the first man.  He was in his 50s, with a scruffy beard and unkempt clothing.  He only asked for my cart so he could retrieve the quarter from it.  How humbling it must have been for that man to have to ask for a cart to get a quarter.  He was careful to let me know that he didn’t want to frighten me.  He told me he would help put my groceries in my car if he could have my cart.  I told him I could load my own groceries but he could have my cart, and he walked with me to my van.

While loading my groceries into my van, I asked him where he lived.  He said a friend of his was letting him live in a shed in the back yard.  I asked him if he needed food and he said that he had eaten a meal that day so he was okay.  He told me that he had electricity and running water in his shed so he felt very blessed to have that much.  We talked for a few more minutes while I finished loading my groceries.  Then I dug through my purse for some money and said “God bless you” as I handed it to him.  My words felt lame and the money felt like not enough.   He looked at me through rugged looking eyes and said, “He just did.”  I smiled at him.  He walked away with the cart as I climbed into my van.

I cried on the way home.  I cried for the way this man had to live and I cried because I felt that possibly I had received a greater blessing than the homeless man.  I felt the greater blessing of being able to give and it opened my eyes to my own recent struggles that now seemed a little less complicated compared to what he was going through.

The second homeless man I met was also in his late 50s.  He could have been younger, but his weathered face made it hard to tell.  He asked me for $1.50 so he and his two friends could eat.  He told me his name was Jonathan.  He was unkempt and had a scruffy beard, but he was polite and kind and addressed me as ma’am.  I asked him a few questions and my heart went out to him as he told me his story.  He had been a successful businessman just a few years ago.  He had a wife, who was now divorcing him.  He had a nice home on a lake and two cars.  He said he had made a lot of mistakes and this is how he ended up.

Jonathan told me what it was like to live on the streets.  His story was heart wrenching and I tried to imagine how it must feel for a man to come from a good life to living day to day without a place to call home.  His stained dress pants were held up by a belt around his too thin frame.   Food and shelter were only half of his worries.  Surviving was a huge concern because of some “bad apples” who were also living and trying to survive on the streets.  Imagine trying to just get by day to day and then having to worry about other homeless people attacking you and trying to take the meager amount of possessions you have.  He spoke of how he had friends that watched his back.  He kept pointing out his “backs” that were watching him as he spoke with me.  He was using crutches from a recent street injury.  His forehead had a cut on it from someone hitting him with his crutch while trying to steal something from him.  His arms were full of bruises and scars.  He said he had been stabbed three times and shot once and that if you live on the streets you have to become a fighter, even if you weren’t one before.  He was proud when he spoke of the people he hung out with.  He got a sparkle in his eye when he mentioned how they took care of each other and always kept an eye out for each other.

I thought of all the mistakes I’ve made in life.  None of them left me even close to the position that Jonathan was in.  Would I have the same gumption to go on living day to day if I were in his shoes?   I don’t think most of us would know how to answer that.  It’s hard to imagine and yet Jonathan described to me what seems to me unimaginable.

I didn’t change his situation, but he was able to tell his story.  He will still sleep in a parking lot or the woods tonight, but his voice was heard.  I pray it gave him some hope when I listened to his story.  I pray that Jonathan felt a little less invisible as he was able to tell his story.   Sometimes what we need is for someone to be interested in who we are.  Someone who is curious about our lives.  Someone who will listen to our story.  Hopefully it helped Jonathan get through his day a little bit easier.

I prayed with Jonathan before I left him with a few groceries and a little bit of money.  I prayed for God to intervene and to give him and his friends strength while they were waiting on God to help them.  It seemed like not enough.  But I do know that God is enough and  if nothing else, I pray my meeting with Jonathan will open up his heart to know God a little deeper and to lean on him a little harder.

How long is “too long” to wait on God?

Have you been waiting for provision in some area of your life?  A job? A place to live?  A meal?  Or just someone to smile at you so you don’t feel so lonely?

God is faithful.  How many times have you heard that and yet you are still in the same situation you were in six months ago?  You scream, “If God is faithful, why am I still praying for changes to take place?  When will life take a different turn so I can get back on track?”  Frustrations have mounted and questions swirl around in your head.  Waiting for God feels like a lost cause and you are totally drained to the point that there is nothing left inside of you that even wants to cry out to God.

 Now you are right where you need to be.  Totally drained of yourself so God can start pouring Himself into you.

What would it look like if you found yourself wanting God more than wanting anything else in life?  Wanting him more than you want that job.  Wanting him more than you want your marriage to work.  Wanting him more than you want your daughter to stop seeing the boy she is dating.  Wanting God more than you want your next meal.  Its a new way of thinking.  In Larry Crabb’s book SoulTalk, I like the line that says:  I want to experience God through whatever means he provides and keep trusting him whether life gets better or not. 

Recent circumstances could have caused me to question God’s goodness.   My husband and I have been challenged in the area of jobs, finances, and health.  All major issues looming over our heads while we have waited on God to show himself.   However, we have committed to standing on the promise that God’s peace is enough to get us through until the thing that needs to happen to make our circumstances better actually starts happening.  We have waited and trusted, waited and trusted.  Slivers of doubt have tried to creep in.  Discouragement has tried to get us to distrust God’s word.  But we keep turning our eyes back to Him.  We are determined that whether or not our circumstances change, we still have a beautiful relationship with God and that will never change.  As we wait our faith is growing, our dependence on Him is deepening.  Good things are starting to happen.  Is it all perfect?  No.  But circumstances are improving.  More importantly, our dependence on Him has grown.

You get what you get!  I’ve always said that about the way God created our individual bodies.  However, that also goes for life in general.  Whether life has recklessly tossed a bag of bad apples your way or gently placed a golden nugget in your lap, either way you have to do something with what was given to you.  We prefer the gentle placement of things in our life, but that doesn’t mean that the things that are thrown at us are any less precious.   Ask God what He would have you learn from your present circumstances.  “God, what do you want me to do with this bag of rotten apples?  Can I make a difference in anybody’s life with this?”   You could cut out the seeds and plant them.  Eventually something beautiful and fruitful will come out of it.  Some day it might bless a family and feed them when times are tough.  It is difficult in the midst of trouble, but try to envision what it will look like beyond the present circumstance.

How long do we wait on God to act?     We wait as long as it takes to see his hand in our circumstance.  In the meantime, we get to know Him better.  We cultivate our faith.  Determine to allow life to be well with your soul, no matter what you face.   Nothing can improve upon our life more than the way He fills our soul when we lean completely on him.

I leave you with the words to one of the most beautiful songs ever written:  It Is Well With My Soul – – –

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

God bless you on your journey.

Do not grow weary in well-doing for in due season you will reap, if you do not lose heart.  Galations 6:9

Challenges and Blessings . . . Are They the Same Thing?

Circumstances are life.  Should we allow circumstances to shake us?  Life is all about changes and trials and challenges.  It’s about learning how to deal with different types of people in all types of situations.  Struggles are a part of life.  No one gets to go through life without a bump in the road now and then.  There is going to be pain.  There is going to be sorrow.  There is going to be challenge.  But do all these things have to shake us?  Not if we have learned to put first things first.

When I find myself knowing that my dependence on God is the single most important thing in my life I am putting first things first.

I am seeing God’s hand in so many areas of my life.  I am also facing giants that seem to want to destroy me.  Do I look at the giants or do I keep my eyes on God?  My life challenges are proving to me that I cannot do life alone.  Everything I do is critical to realizing my need for dependence on God.  I’m seeing that nothing matters more than my relationship with God.

So, if my challenges are driving me to have a deeper dependence on God, is it possible that my challenges are my blessings?



There is a reason that God put you on this earth.  It may not be clear to you, but if all you’ve done is given someone else a smile today, you have made an impact on someone else’s life.

You don’t have to be popular, wealthy or the best-dressed to be worthy of existing.  Your existence is perfect at this very moment.  Cherish your life.

You can be in the midst of a storm and pull someone under the umbrella with you.  Just because your life is being rained on doesn’t mean you can’t help someone else.

God never intended for anyone to face life alone.

Becoming a Healthier Person Deep Within

"I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death." Thomas Paine

Part of my goal for this year is to try to become as healthy as I possibly can.  I want to see if by eating a mostly plant-based diet, getting the proper amount of exercise daily, and working toward eliminating stress because of living up to other peoples’ standards, instead of my own and God’s, if I can be a whole lot healthier.  I think I can and I’m going to work towards that throughout the year.

What can I do to become a more healthy person?

  •  – Daily 1 mile walk/run (some days my dog, Heidi, is lucky enough to accompany me).   – Eat more plant-based meals.   – Daily Bible reading and/or inspirational reading.   – Daily prayer.
  • I can do all of these things, but there is more to becoming a healthy person than taking care of our physical bodies and praying each day.  In order to become totally whole, we need to care for our spiritual and mental well-being at a deeper level.  That takes more than just praying.  It takes looking into ourselves to see what affects us at the deepest part of our beings.  It takes opening our hearts to all of the experiences that are offered to us.  It takes being silent and observant so that we can hear and see what God has put into our lives to enrich it.

I want to live with an open heart and mind, to gather all that I can gather to live healthier and then spread it around so that others can live healthier too.  My hope is that I can share what I learn so that you can grasp it and spread it to others. 

Welcome to My Journey . . . Finding What Really Matters in Life

I’m so glad that you decided to join me on my journey.  Recently I have been re-evaluating my life.   I guess that is a typical thing for a 50-year-old woman to do.   I’m not in crisis, but I feel like I am in “transition”.  I want to discover the essentially important things in life and then live them out.   I’m on my way  .  .  .  . and you’re welcome to join me.   Let’s laugh and have fun along the way.  Hopefully, you will make some wonderful discoveries of your own as we travel together.


If you've never been thrilled to the very edges of your soul by a flower in spring bloom, maybe your soul has never been in bloom. ~Terri Guillemets