The Quality and Condition of Diversity

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Our country is at a crossroads as a result of a win and a loss.

Opinions and anger are flying freely in our streets and across the internet. The media continues to fuel the varied opinions of people who have already been incited to anger. Headlines continue to spew words that cause resentment and turmoil to boil within the hearts of those who feel their voice may not have been heard.

I’m from Green Bay Packer country and anyone familiar with the Pack knows how loyal their fans are. They pretty much bleed green and gold. It’s the only community-owned major league professional sports team based in the United States. Maybe that’s why their fans are so committed. Maybe its the nature of the people in Wisconsin.

Whatever the reason, what I have observed, is when the Pack is playing well and winning games, the fans are hyper-exuberant, hyper-joyful and hyper-supportive. But that same exuberance, joy and support can easily be turned into booing and jeering when the team they love so dearly isn’t playing well.

If the deep loyalty of these fans can be so fickle as to change their attitude and stance toward their beloved team over the direction a pigskin is going on a football field, how do we understand the passion of people standing for something they feel in their hearts should or should not have happened in our recent election?

Perhaps its human nature to have so much passion about something that we don’t consider the effect that it has on the people around us. Perhaps we don’t realize how our choices paralyze us and affect the quality of not only our own lives but those around us.

To use another football analogy – maybe you’re seated behind someone who waves a banner during the game and you can’t see the field. Maybe someone behind you is jumping up and down so much that they spill their beer on you. Maybe someone next to you is so drunk and belligerent that you want to turn around and clock them.

In any of those circumstances the other person’s behavior has ruined the quality of your experience at that game. Even in what should be the most fun environments we can be cited to anger over other peoples’ actions. But in these situations we all have choices.

We can put up with the annoyance during the game and go home and live our lives just the way we did before – or we can turn around, get ugly with the belligerent drunk guy and ruin our whole football game experience and probably the next several days as well.

Differences should not produce violence. Diversity is a beautiful thing, but that means a coming together in spite of differences. That means looking at another person as though we were looking in a mirror. That means trying to imagine walking a mile in another persons’ shoes.

It means that even the belligerent, drunk guy has a responsibility to look at his actions and consider how his behavior affects other people.

The simple definition of diversity out of the Merriam-Webster dictionary is: the quality . . . of having many different forms, types, ideas, etc.

Quality is how good or bad something is – a high level of value or excellence. To me that means that our differences enhance our lives and our experiences.

Perhaps the plural form ‘diversities‘ has a stronger meaning:  the condition of having or being composed of differing elements or the inclusion of different types of people . . . in a group or organization.
Whether we acknowledge the quality, condition or inclusion of diversity, the decision to accept our surrounding circumstances and the people within them is a choice we make every day.

I may not agree with your choices, but that doesn’t mean that I would treat you any different than someone that I am in total agreement with. That’s the beauty of diversity.

In Dale Carnegie’s book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ I read a quote from a Mr. Johnson: “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his day.”

So I have to ask – – – – Why should you and I?

Carnegie also states: “Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness . . . ”

So, until the world turns itself right side up, try to remember this old saying,

“I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”

Supporting Small Businesses Through the Holidays

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As the holiday season begins I’d like to share something important. I cherish the relationships I’ve built online in both my personal and business relationships. Within this internet community I’ve met the most beautiful people who have enriched my life in so many ways.

With that said, I am asking you all to consider small business owners as you are buying gifts for friends and family members this holiday season.

Small businesses owners are just people who have chosen the non-traditional form of “work” to provide an income for our families. We have built either social selling businesses, home-based businesses, or small brick and mortar stores to make a living and to sell products or services that can benefit you and your family.

As individuals, we can’t compete with the one-stop variety of Walmart or your nearest mall, but we do have products that could possibly replace the things you buy regularly at these places.

So…here is what I ask of each of you to consider as you start shopping for holiday gifts:

****Want to buy someone you love life changing skincare products? Contact me for Rodan + Fields Skincare.
****Want to get a holiday manicure with your coworkers? Host a Jamberry party at home.
****Before purchasing a Yankee candle, ask around for a Gold Canyon or Scentsy consultant
****Before sniffing everything in Bath and Body Works, ask if anyone sells home made & local.
****Looking to grab a scarf, sweater or some mittens for grandma? Ask if any of your friends knits or crochets on the side at home.
****Instead of seeking out cosmetics at the mall – find a Younique Rep.
****How about the latest bags? Thirty-One is a great choice.
****Looking for Jewelry, scarves, essential oils, books, clothing, etc.
– – – – – you get the idea!

Whatever you do, please consider supporting your friends’ or families’ businesses. It can really make a difference in their future!! 💕

If you are a direct sales consultant or local business, please feel free to share your link, web address and/or products below! (Fellow Rodan + Fields Consultants – please for obvious reasons, do not post your website.)

From Chaos to Peace – In Five Minutes

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You carve out nine hours a day to go to a job, pick up groceries on the way home from work, and then pick up the kids from their after school programs before heading home to throw a pizza in the oven for supper and pulling homework out of backpacks and setting it out on the kitchen counter.

Then its off to take Bella to dance and Micah to Martial Arts, but not before a meltdown from Bella because she has misplaced her dance bag with her dance shoes in it – again.

On your way to drop Micah off at Martial Arts your husband calls and asks you to pick up a card for his boss’s birthday.  While the kids are at their lessons you run to Walmart to grab the card and a box of brownie mix for a party in Bella’s classroom tomorrow – she promised to bring brownies and you just found out about it on the way to dance.

After picking up way more than the two items at Walmart, you rush back to pick up Bella and Micah and once home you throw in a load of laundry while making sure homework is started and the brownies are in the oven.

After your husband assists you with a few homework meltdowns and sending the kids off to bed, he gives you a kiss and heads off to bed himself. Then you fold a load of laundry, get your clothes set out for work, and prepare the kids lunches for tomorrow.

Then . . . with a deep sigh . . . you sit down on the sofa, knowing that it all starts over tomorrow. Sound familiar?

In my days of that kind of rush I found solace in those late night hours, when everyone had gone to bed and I was able to sit quietly in the stillness of my living room.

Often times with only the street light illuminating through the curtains, I would sit with my feet curled up on the sofa and look around the dimly lit room. I could hear the click, click, click of the kitchen wall clock and the soft whirring of the refrigerator.

Knowing that my kids were sleeping peacefully in their beds and there were no more demands on me, my body would tingle with the feeling of quiet and stillness.

In those moments I would ponder the day and reflect on what I had to be thankful for. No demands. No rush. No expectations. Just peace.

To get my mind completely at peace I would first reflect on my standing with God. If not for the relationship I have with God, I could not know the true inner peace that my mind so much desires.

Then I would think of a place that I created in my mind that gently nudged me into a quiet within my soul.

It’s a beautiful place in the woods. A lazy little river flows through it and the sun is softly shining through the tall, old willows that have grown and lived in harmony with the river for centuries.

I breathe in relaxation. I breathe out tension and anxiety.

In a small area, at the bank of the river, sand stretches out into a welcoming little beach. Created especially for me, I set down a small beach chair in the shallow water and with anticipation of relaxation, I sit down. The gentle flow of the water on my feet and the warm air with a slight breeze is just enough to bring calm to my body.

A butterfly softly floats through the air and lands on a flower. A dragonfly sits softly on the arm of my chair adding to the peace of the moment. The leaves rustle gently in the trees and an occasional bird sings a sweet little song.

Tilting my head back I allow the soft rays of sunshine to melt into my skin. The rays warm my body as my feet are bathed in the softness and gentle flow of the water around them.

Completely calm, as soft as the river is flowing, I’ve found peace.

The muscles in my face begin to soften. The muscles in my neck start to ease. The churning in my stomach settles and my mind begins to slow while the soft, warm breeze carries away the remainder of my tension.

The sun is whispering “Shhhh, quiet your mind.” The soft breeze is saying “Be still. Rest”.

In that moment my world is at peace.

 

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When Life Overwhelms You

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Tune in to any news network and you’re faced with police killings, bombings, racial divides, political corruption and economic uncertainties.

We’re constantly being challenged to choose a ‘side’, whether it be gender, race, politics or any other controversial topic, we’re expected to make a determination as to who we are with and who we are against.

There is constant stimulation around us and by the end of the day it can leave us with our heads spinning out of control.

I’m not normal. I was thin skinned from a very young age and was accused of being ‘overly sensitive’. I have always felt like the ‘odd man out’, whether I was with a group of friends or within the structure of my own family.

I love people and care about my friends and family deeply, but I feel lost in most social situations and, therefore, try to avoid them as much as possible.

It wasn’t until a few years ago when I learned that I was a part of a small percentage of people who are highly sensitive that I was able to finally take a deep breath and realize I wasn’t alone.

I finally “belonged”. The group is known as Highly Sensitive People (HSP). The sense of belonging to others who understand my behaviors was beyond incredible. I could look back and see how my trait affected countless situations. I could finally see how normal stress to someone else was majorly overwhelming to me.

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In her book, The Highly Sensitive Person, Dr. Elaine Aron explains: “The downside of the trait shows up at more intense levels of stimulation. What is moderately arousing for most people is highly arousing for HSPs. What is highly arousing for most people causes an HSP to become very frazzled indeed, until they reach a shutdown point . . . ”

She goes on to explain, “per the Russian physiologist Ivan Pavlov, that the most basic inherited difference among people was how soon they reach this shutdown point.”

What I gather from this is that even those who are not highly sensitive, if exposed to constant daily stimulation from the effects of the media, work, traffic, etc., will eventually reach the point of shutdown.

This may explain why, according to a report published in November of 2015, by the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), that from 1999 to 2012 the percentage of Americans on antidepressants increased from 6.8% to 13%.

My guess is that among those percentages are people who fall within the HSP realm as well as outside of it. My guess is that the stress levels of living a “normal” daily life is affecting much of the population.

So what should we do so as to not allow the daily effects of life to alter our sense of peace? Here are few solutions:

  1. Don’t chose a side – just be and allow others the same freedom.
  2. Watch, listen to and surround yourself with positive people and news.
  3. Close your eyes and breathe deeply.
  4. Go outside and take a walk. Move around.
  5. Use water to take the stress away. Drink it or swim in it.
  6. Set your thoughts on some thing you love and smile softly.

Doing these things may not change the circumstances around you, but your goal is to bring some inner peace in the midst of chaos.

Positive or negative – you have the choice as to what you surround yourself with. Only you know what it takes to become overwhelmed.

Living The Uncommon Life

Don't let the crabs bring you down!
Don’t let the crabs bring you down!

Have you ever tried reaching for a goal – something very different from what you’ve always done – and have someone criticize you for it?

It reminds me of the story of the crabs. If you have a bucket full of crabs you never have to worry if they are going to get out. Why? Because if one tries to get out the other crabs in the bucket will actually pull him back down!

If you’re reaching for a better way of life – starting a new business, cutting back on spending money to get out debt, or even avoiding the lunchroom gossip to get a more positive attitude . . . chances are someone is going to ridicule you for it.

It’s not fun making those unpopular choices, but just know this:

IF YOU CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK . . .  YOU’RE KILLING YOUR OWN SUCCESS!

No matter what you may try to do, there will always be those “crabby” people who will try to pull you back down to their “reality.”

Keep scratching up the side of the bucket and do everything you can to reach the top.

There’s no telling what you’ll be able to grasp onto in life once you shake loose from those “crabby” claws.

 

Living With Contentment

. . . the appreciation of what we have.

In the chapter on Living Peacefully in his book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, Dr. Wayne Dyer shares the 46th verse of the Tao Te Ching. In part he says:

“There is . . . no greater tragedy than discontentment; the worst of faults is wanting more – always!”

Written five hundred years before the birth of Jesus, a God-realized man named Lao-tzu in ancient China shared these wise words that ring so very true in our culture today.

So I ask the question – How do we know when we have enough?

When I was growing up I had a limited wardrobe, a few nice toys, and a rebuilt bicycle – because my parents worked hard but didn’t have unlimited financial resources. We didn’t live in excess of anything (except the abundance of a beautiful vegetable garden that my step-father worked tirelessly at), but we always had enough. I didn’t really need anything – unless I looked around me and saw what other people had. I didn’t need things – until I saw an ad on television or heard about some new thing on the radio. I didn’t get most things, but it created a desire within me.

I think that’s the way it is today. We have media thrown at us from every direction and friends on Facebook telling about their latest exciting vacation, car, clothes or gadget. It gets us wondering if that’s what we need.

So we struggle with the issue of – is what I have enough? Would more make me feel successful, happy, content?

  • The average household credit card debt is $15,675.
  • The average household mortgage debt is $172,341.
  • The average household auto loan debt is $27,865.
  • The average household student loan debt is $48,591.
  • The total credit card debt alone collectively owed by U.S. consumers = $729 billion.

I don’t know about you, but those numbers tell me that there are whole lot of people who are not living in contentment – they are living in bondage to a whole lot of debt.

So, getting back to Lao tzu and his ancient wisdom – he also says “There is  . . . no greater curse than covetousness.”

Many might think ‘that’s just an old word from the Bible‘. Today’s terms would be – greediness and materialism.

Dr. Dyer shifts our thinking to a more positive way. “When you truly understand what it means to live peacefully, satisfaction will begin to replace your desire for more. Your world will begin to become tranquil as you change your own life and then touch the lives of your immediate family, your neighbors, your co-workers, and ultimately your nation and the entire planet.”

What’s he talking about? He’s talking about practicing gratitude and contentment in our every day lives. He’s saying that if we want to live a content life, we need to learn that it isn’t all about acquiring things. He’s saying that a sense of gratitude within us will squelch the desire for more.

A final word from Dr. Dyer: “When enough of us are able to do this . . .[we will] surpass the demands of the ego.”

And a final word from the ancient Chinese master of wisdom:

“Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.”
Lao Tzu

My Garden Makes Me Happy

 

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My Back Yard Garden

It’s the little things in life that make me happy.

That’s one of the traits of a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), which I’ve discovered within the past few years that I fall under the category of.  Although the majority of my life these same traits have caused me to feel very uncomfortable in my own skin, I’m beginning to embrace who I am and the way I was created.

My back yard makes me very happy. I’ve created a little garden that I’m able to see out of my kitchen window. In this garden are herbs, and flowers, and a few weeds.  The old birdbath that we found under an overgrowth of Bromeliads and mother-in-law tongues has been revived and stands proud among the growing plants and color.

Is it perfect? Not in the least. That’s why I love it. It’s simple and growing and imperfect – just like me.

One of the best things about my little garden is that it attracts butterflies. I’ve seen a variety of butterflies floating and bouncing around the orange and yellow blossoms of a plant I can’t even remember the name of.

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All that matters is that the little butterflies dancing around my little garden brings so much joy to my heart that I smile every time I see one.

 

Dreaming About Long Eye Lashes? Wake Up To A Dream Come True

In an article written by Phoenix Plastic Surgeon,  John W. Bass, MD, titled “9 Reasons Women Want Longer Lashes” he describes the desire many women have for long, lushes eye lashes. And while some women are naturally gifted with long lashes, there are those women who have done everything possible to get them, including falsies, prescriptions, OTC products, and lash extensions. They all have their horror and success stories and some women just settle for layering on three applications of mascara. UGH!

There’s a new product coming to the consumer market on November 2, 2016, that needs a serious look for those in the market for longer, fuller looking lashes. It’s creators, Drs. Katie Rodan and Kathy Fields, who also happen to be the innovators behind Proactiv, the acne solution, have done it again with a life changing product!

They’ve already captivated thousands with their new line of premium skincare line called Rodan + Fields, and now, with LASH BOOST, they’ll captivate another audience of people wanting longer, more lushes appearing lashes.

Rodan + Fields’ newly launched Lash Boost, (available to the public on November 2, 2016) is a a nightly serum with lash-building biotin and keratin. It’s 4 weeks to WOW and 8 weeks to WHOA! (And it works on brows too!)romieyelashes

To add to the excitement of a new product launch, Rodan + Fields is putting together a fun Holiday Offer (Nov 2, 2016 – Jan 2, 2017). This bundle includes 1 Lash Boost, 1 Multi-Function Eye Cream mini, and the cutest Travel Pouch with Lash Illustration that you’ll love. Retail price for this Holiday bundle is $150.00. Preferred Customer pricing is $135.00 for all three items!

If you just can’t wait, becoming a Consultant is the way to get your hands on it right now – with the added benefit of the consultant discount! Visit my site: https://www.kathyshelto.myrandf.biz to sign up as a consultant now and get your Lash Boost right away.

So, what is it about having long lashes that makes a person feel better? Dr. Bass describes the reasons behind wanting long lashes:

  1. Long lashes are a universal symbol of beauty.
  2. Countless surveys show that men are more attracted to women with beautiful eyes, and eyelashes enhance the eyes.
  3. Having beautiful, full, longer eyelashes framing the windows of a woman’s soul is similar to placing a complimentary frame around beautiful photograph.
  4. Long lashes can create a dramatic effect that can seduce even the most resistant men.
  5. Long lashes can make a woman’s eyes look wider and more open which has always been a sign of femininity.
  6. Women with longer lashes can take advantage of many more options for applying makeup.
  7. Longer lashes in photographs show up so much better than short or sparse eyelashes.
  8. Long lashes help increases self-esteem. When we look good, our confidence and self-esteem is boosted and we feel good about ourselves. Many women who feel insecure think that having lovely eyelashes will make them look better, which is true because they really do enhance beauty.
  9. Long lashes can make you look incredibly attractive in just a matter of minutes. Some even say that the perfect eyelash is the shortcut to applying make-up.

With the release of Lash Boost to R+F customers right around the corner – November 2, 2016, you’ll want to hook up all your girlfriends with Lash Boost and get started on your own 8 weeks to Whoa! If you think you can wait until November 2nd, log into my Rodan + Fields ordering page – http://www.kathyshelto.myranf.com – and get your Preferred Customer status ready so you’re ready to order as soon as its available. In the meantime, check out the other life changing products and walk through the steps of our Solution Tool to see what products would best suit you. Preferred Customers get Free Shipping on all orders over $80.00.

Here’s to great lashes!

 

 

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Introduction and Training Videos are in your back office once you sign on with OSP and they will walk you through your set up.  The Training Center contains several videos and articles dedicated to marketing on social media. These are perfect especially for anyone who is new to social media marketing and even more advanced marketers will be able to learn from them.

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You Haven’t Missed The Boat To Success

At age 23, Tina Fey was working at a YMCA.

At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.

At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer.

At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.

At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 28, Wayne Coyne ( from The Flaming Lips) was a fry cook.

At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.

At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.

At age 37, Ang Lee was a stay-at-home-dad working odd jobs.

Julia Child released her first cookbook at age 39, and got her own cooking show at age 51.

Vera Wang failed to make the Olympic figure skating team, didn’t get the Editor-in-Chief position at Vogue, and designed her first dress at age 40.

Whatever your dream is, it is not too late to achieve it. You aren’t a failure because you haven’t found fame and fortune by the age of 21. Hell, it’s okay if you don’t even know what your dream is yet. Even if you’re flipping burgers, waiting tables or answering phones today, you never know where you’ll end up tomorrow.

Never tell yourself you’re too old to make it.

Never tell yourself you missed your chance.

Never tell yourself that you aren’t good enough.

You can do it. Whatever it is! lion1